I never thought I’d write something like this. But there are wounds one can no longer ignore.
A few years ago, I had the privilege of participating in a women’s restoration project. Entering that space felt like stepping into unfamiliar territory—far outside my comfort zone. I listened to stories from women who had been deeply wounded by words, actions, abandonment, silence, and impossible expectations—both as adults and as little girls. And though the pain was often evident, so was the beauty of a heart that, despite everything, still longed to love and be loved.
It was a strange time (perhaps because I felt I was on unfamiliar ground), but it marked me deeply. I understood then that, as a man, I am not separate from that pain. Many like me have caused it. But I also realized something else: men can also be part of the healing. Not through theory or superiority, but through humility, respect, and a genuine desire to rebuild what others have torn down. This letter is written from that place.
The Wound and the Lie
We live in a time where women are caught in the crossfire. Culture, systems, and even some ideologies have distorted their essence. She’s told, from every side, that she’s not enough—whether she’s a mother or not; whether she works or stays home; whether she speaks out or remains quiet. Lies bombard her about her body, her worth, her freedom, her role, and her faith.
Many men have played a part in this damage—some through abuse, others through indifference. But there’s also a system that pushes, voices that confuse, and noise that tries to drown out the deepest truth:
Woman, you were created with an eternal design. Your essence reflects the heart of God.
Open Letter: “To You, Woman…”
To you, woman, walking through the noise—I want to speak to your heart.
You, who carry questions… who struggle between what you feel and what the world expects of you. You, who have heard so many voices that sometimes you no longer know which to believe. I want you to know: God has never forgotten you. He’s been there—even in the silences that hurt.
You are a bearer of life. And that goes far beyond biology. You bring life with your gaze, your words, your hands, your comfort, your presence. Your femininity is not a burden—it is a crown. It was placed on you by the One who designed you with intention, tenderness, and power.
Your worth is not based on your appearance or accomplishments. You don’t need to imitate or compete to be worthy. Your dignity was given to you before the world ever named you. You were created to reflect God’s heart—in your sensitivity, your strength, your ability to nurture, guide, listen, and build.
You are not alone. Even if the road has been hard… even if you’ve been betrayed, used, or discarded—there is a Father who sees you, who calls you by name, and who wants to restore every part of you. Your story is not broken beyond redemption. There is healing for you. There is a new beginning.
Your ability to nurture, lift, and sow goes far beyond titles and labels. Your motherhood doesn’t start or end with biology. Do not fear being a mother. Do not fear not being one. Your motherhood—whether biological or spiritual—is a sacred calling, not an imposed burden. Every seed of love you plant blooms in eternity.
And because some truths deserve to be remembered word for word, I want to leave you with this:
Manifesto for the Woman According to God
Woman, listen with your heart. This truth is eternal, and it was written for you:
You were imagined, created, and loved before the foundation of the world.
You are not an accident, not a product of culture, and not a replaceable part of a system that shifts with time.
You are God’s masterpiece.
“I formed you in your mother’s womb. I knit you together with care and love. You are wonderfully made.”
(Psalm 139:13–14)
Your femininity is a gift, not a burden.
In you resides the capacity to give life—physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
You reflect the tenderness, strength, beauty, and wisdom of your Creator.
“I created humankind in My image; male and female I created them.”
(Genesis 1:27)
You’re not called to imitate anyone or fight for your dignity—you already have it.
You don’t need to compare yourself or conform to outside molds—you are already enough.
You are not alone on your journey—I am with you.
“You are precious in My eyes, honored, and I love you.”
(Isaiah 43:4)
Your motherhood is a crown, not a burden.
Every seed of love you plant blossoms in eternity.
“More are the children of the desolate woman than of her who has a husband,” says the Lord.
(Isaiah 54:1)
Remember: true freedom is not in denying who you are, but in embracing it with joy and dignity.
“You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”
(John 8:32)
In a world that wants to redefine your worth, essence, and mission—
God calls you to lift your head and walk as a daughter of the King.
“You are all children of God through faith in Christ Jesus.”
(Galatians 3:26)
A Purpose – A Call to Women and Men
To you, woman: lift your head.
You were not made to live crushed by expectations or ideologies.
You are a daughter. You are free. You are loved.
Embracing your design is not going backward—it is rediscovering the joy of being who you were created to be.
To you, man, if you’ve had the courage to read this far:
You were not made to dominate or compete.
You were created to love, serve, and protect with honor.
It is time to awaken, to ask for forgiveness, and to rebuild what others have torn down.
A true giant does not impose himself—his strength is shown in his honor.
Because there is a woman’s heart in need of healing…
And there are also men ready to be part of her restoration.
And I choose to be one of them.
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